Why We Hate

Bad things happen. Sometimes apologies are made and things are corrected, sometimes not. Sometimes there is no apology. And sometimes those responsible have no idea of their actions.

Whichever the cause, the result is resentment and anger. Do we let it pass? Do we forgive and rise? Do we take it out on another? Do we pass it to our closest friends and relatives? We hate because we are taught to hate. We develop pride and ego who conspire to ‘help’ us.

We want to be rid of the pain. Anger and resentment hurt. There is no quick fix.

So the hate persists, it grows like a cancer, and spreads. Is enlightenment the lack of reaction to anger and hate?

So you hate. I hate. What does it get us? In the end? Naught but pain.

So let it go. Bad things happen but what defines us is how we handle it.

Be well. Live, laugh, and love.

There is That Day

We all have them. The day where the previous night was rough and the following day is simply a continuation. Personal, professional, physical and spiritual its all horrid. You cannot focus and you wonder why you got out of bed.

But you did. And you are out there trying to do your best. You are trying to be kind despite what the world passes to you.

Some call it grace, some courage, some poise or presence. But it exists to some extent in all of us.

Realize what you had the courage to do today. Give yourself credit for what you have done. Get stronger today. Be kind today. If tomorrow never arrives, today will have been a good day.

Why We Keep Spinning

There is something inherently evil about the lack of satiation.  It does not matter what it is – person, place, or thing.  We want more, always more.

Lets run through what this does to our psyche.

  1. It allows no rest.  If you never have enough, you are constantly figuring out what you are either missing or how you can get that which you are missing.
  2. It drives or is driven by – comparison.  Comparison = Competition.  We compete because we want to compare, want to be better, and in the stronger and most evil cases, have a desire for dominance.
  3. It allows no reflection.  If our minds and hearts are always chasing something, how can we evaluate ourselves at a deep level when we never get past our ‘stuff’?
  4. It diminishes appreciation.  We never sit back and look at what we have been given and our opportunities and abilities.
  5. It causes us to dislike ourselves on a superficial level that grows deeper.  The water that sits on the surface creeps into our soul, creating a disgust of ourselves that is only lessened by working harder, taking greater chances, seeking more validation.

What do we need?

  • Enough to get by with a some set aside for rainy days.
  • Support of family and friends that is real.
  • Positive belief in self and the world around
  • Strength of mind, body, and soul to weather storms as they come
  • Love of the wonders all around us
  • Tenacity to defend ourselves against those that will harm us
  • Kindness to help others, regardless of reciprocity
  • Humility to be open to learning and growing
  • Skepticism of false or effusive praise
  • Acceptance of our situation without deception
  • Gratitude for our state in life and this world

Live, Laugh, and Love.  Be well.