When it just feels too much

Life is strange and wonderful. Even at its worst, there is beauty. Sometimes the hardest things create wonderful outcomes.

So today was hard. Maybe its a demon in your head or heart. Maybe its a failed relationship. Maybe you are too weak to fight an addiction. Maybe your body is ravaged by pain. Will these events define you?

Will you do your best to rise above or will you fall to the lowest common denomiator? Will you stand up for yourself and those you love? Or fall? Choose. And choose wisely not easily. Pay the price. Stand proud.

Today is another chance to choose.

So choose.

There is That Day

We all have them. The day where the previous night was rough and the following day is simply a continuation. Personal, professional, physical and spiritual its all horrid. You cannot focus and you wonder why you got out of bed.

But you did. And you are out there trying to do your best. You are trying to be kind despite what the world passes to you.

Some call it grace, some courage, some poise or presence. But it exists to some extent in all of us.

Realize what you had the courage to do today. Give yourself credit for what you have done. Get stronger today. Be kind today. If tomorrow never arrives, today will have been a good day.

Persistence

There are gaps in time where things are not possible.  Life intervenes.  We fight the fires that are directly in front of us.  Sometimes it takes time to regroup.  But do yourself this favor on Black Friday – do not ever stop for anyone or anything.  Keep your eye on what is at your core and never settle.  You will start living a life of purpose, of love, of real meaning.  Black Friday and Cyber Monday celebrate the worst of humanity.  Conspicuous consumption on a level that is far beyond anything we need.

We are conditioned to believe its never enough.  Every commercial, every program push an agenda.  Think for yourself starting today.  What is true?  What is right?  What do I really need?  Who do I really need/who demonstrates that they want me?  Not some picture of you, but the real you – warts and all.

Be kind to yourself starting today – live in the real world, as yourself, take only what you need, share what you can, give away all the rest, think of our earth every day, and never, ever stop.

Be well, Live, Laugh, and Love Like Tomorrow is a Long Way Away

Why We Keep Spinning

There is something inherently evil about the lack of satiation.  It does not matter what it is – person, place, or thing.  We want more, always more.

Lets run through what this does to our psyche.

  1. It allows no rest.  If you never have enough, you are constantly figuring out what you are either missing or how you can get that which you are missing.
  2. It drives or is driven by – comparison.  Comparison = Competition.  We compete because we want to compare, want to be better, and in the stronger and most evil cases, have a desire for dominance.
  3. It allows no reflection.  If our minds and hearts are always chasing something, how can we evaluate ourselves at a deep level when we never get past our ‘stuff’?
  4. It diminishes appreciation.  We never sit back and look at what we have been given and our opportunities and abilities.
  5. It causes us to dislike ourselves on a superficial level that grows deeper.  The water that sits on the surface creeps into our soul, creating a disgust of ourselves that is only lessened by working harder, taking greater chances, seeking more validation.

What do we need?

  • Enough to get by with a some set aside for rainy days.
  • Support of family and friends that is real.
  • Positive belief in self and the world around
  • Strength of mind, body, and soul to weather storms as they come
  • Love of the wonders all around us
  • Tenacity to defend ourselves against those that will harm us
  • Kindness to help others, regardless of reciprocity
  • Humility to be open to learning and growing
  • Skepticism of false or effusive praise
  • Acceptance of our situation without deception
  • Gratitude for our state in life and this world

Live, Laugh, and Love.  Be well.