The Hard Things

Life is not simple for anyone. We all fight demons, large and small. Some come in the form of people, and some are less obvious. We are all faced with hard decisions and tough consequences. How to make this decision?

Can you sleep that night having made the decision? How about tomorrow? Next week? Next year? Right <> Easy.

This process makes decisions easier. Its still hard and the pain may last for a long time but hopefully you can move past it with your head held high.

And get some sleep along the way. Think hard, be smart, stay true.

Live, laugh, and love.

Why We Hate

Bad things happen. Sometimes apologies are made and things are corrected, sometimes not. Sometimes there is no apology. And sometimes those responsible have no idea of their actions.

Whichever the cause, the result is resentment and anger. Do we let it pass? Do we forgive and rise? Do we take it out on another? Do we pass it to our closest friends and relatives? We hate because we are taught to hate. We develop pride and ego who conspire to ‘help’ us.

We want to be rid of the pain. Anger and resentment hurt. There is no quick fix.

So the hate persists, it grows like a cancer, and spreads. Is enlightenment the lack of reaction to anger and hate?

So you hate. I hate. What does it get us? In the end? Naught but pain.

So let it go. Bad things happen but what defines us is how we handle it.

Be well. Live, laugh, and love.

Why We Keep Spinning

There is something inherently evil about the lack of satiation.  It does not matter what it is – person, place, or thing.  We want more, always more.

Lets run through what this does to our psyche.

  1. It allows no rest.  If you never have enough, you are constantly figuring out what you are either missing or how you can get that which you are missing.
  2. It drives or is driven by – comparison.  Comparison = Competition.  We compete because we want to compare, want to be better, and in the stronger and most evil cases, have a desire for dominance.
  3. It allows no reflection.  If our minds and hearts are always chasing something, how can we evaluate ourselves at a deep level when we never get past our ‘stuff’?
  4. It diminishes appreciation.  We never sit back and look at what we have been given and our opportunities and abilities.
  5. It causes us to dislike ourselves on a superficial level that grows deeper.  The water that sits on the surface creeps into our soul, creating a disgust of ourselves that is only lessened by working harder, taking greater chances, seeking more validation.

What do we need?

  • Enough to get by with a some set aside for rainy days.
  • Support of family and friends that is real.
  • Positive belief in self and the world around
  • Strength of mind, body, and soul to weather storms as they come
  • Love of the wonders all around us
  • Tenacity to defend ourselves against those that will harm us
  • Kindness to help others, regardless of reciprocity
  • Humility to be open to learning and growing
  • Skepticism of false or effusive praise
  • Acceptance of our situation without deception
  • Gratitude for our state in life and this world

Live, Laugh, and Love.  Be well.