So you fall in love. They are great, you enjoy each other, and you are good friends. You become serious and maybe move in together or become exclusive or make plans to marry.
Then things arise. Could be small, could be large, but like that pebble in your shoe, you can’t ignore it. You do the right thing – you talk to them. You ask for it to change in a way that works for you. You cannot reach them. You keep trying. You fail.
So what do you do? You try very hard to make it work and it does not. Face it. You can’t fix them. If you lack confidence, ask your friends, etc. if your requests are unusual or harsh. Get some backup. Then….do what you must. You must move on.
You will hurt from this deeply as you wished and wanted soo much more. And if its crazy stupid love, well, hold on for turbulence ahead. But keep going. Never stop.
You have value. You are important. You will be an amazing unique partner to some lucky person. You deserve happiness. No one will ever hand this to you. You must be grateful each day. You must be externally focused. Never lose sight of this. You can’t fix them.
Life is strange and wonderful. Even at its worst, there is beauty. Sometimes the hardest things create wonderful outcomes.
So today was hard. Maybe its a demon in your head or heart. Maybe its a failed relationship. Maybe you are too weak to fight an addiction. Maybe your body is ravaged by pain. Will these events define you?
Will you do your best to rise above or will you fall to the lowest common denomiator? Will you stand up for yourself and those you love? Or fall? Choose. And choose wisely not easily. Pay the price. Stand proud.
Today is another chance to choose.
New Year. New hope. New promises to keep. So we think of things we want to do. We hope and we dream.
But what do we do about it? Not tomorrow, or next week. Today. Now.
Keep your promises to yourself first and then keep promises to others. Set a plan. Get up early and work late. Don’t ever stop.
Will this be easy? Hell no but its the best you got. Work as hard today as you can and hope for another day.
All we really have is now. Use it. Change your life and help others. Dont back off or back down. Fight for what you want because no one else will.
Be well. Work hard. Be kind. Never stop.
We all fail. We hurt others and disappoint ourselves. We feel pain and blame ourselves, think less of ourselves, and the downward spiral starts. We become less worthy in our own eyes and hearts, making us less a part of the ‘good’ in this world. We deny the best in ourselves and let the ugly take hold.
Today be kind to yourself. Let the past fade, accept your humanity, and work to do better in each interaction you have. You will fail. But acceptance and forgiveness will get you much further than destroying the good in you.
Be well. Live, Laugh, Love and Move Forward.
There comes a time for everyone when getting motivated is hard. The goal may even be just to get out of bed. But think about it – this is all you have. No matter how successful how happy how lucky – today and now is all – it is everything. Memories are great and hopes and dreams keep us alive but now is the best. Why?
You can change everything right now. Good decision = better future. Bad decision = worse future but to be fair its hard to differentiate good vs bad. So fo your best face the reality, find the beauty, show gratitude, smile, and laugh. It is a wonderful life and a true gift.
Create good memories by living a great now. Its that simple. Be well.
Sometimes it hurts right away, sometimes it takes time, but we know its coming. Maybe its just an ache. Maybe it truly hurts. And the duration is variable.
So the pain has arrived. It could be mental, physical, or spiritual. What do we do?
We greet it like an old friend. We live the pain when it feels like its all we have. We wonder how it came to be – not what caused it – but how pain first started. Pain is a way of telling you that if you continue doing what you are doing, there will be dire consequences. So thank you pain.
Eventually the pain subsides – from healing or death – and we are left with soreness. Soreness is a reminder of change happening. (Death is not treated casually here. It is serious but also not to be feared.) so you are sore – now what?
Get through it with every positive tool you have. Friends, family, activity, kindness, and love. Do not deny the soreness its place. You must transition and soreness is how it happens.
Realize where you are, why you are there, and if you like it. If you like it then stay. If you do not like it then change it. Embrace the pain, welcome soreness, and step into the light and love again.
Be well. Live, laugh, and love.