No matter who you are, your demons will come for you and when they do, will you be ready? Have you asked yourself the easiest way to manipulate you – what are your weaknesses? What are the words that would touch you/haunt you/scare you? What are the actions of others that bother you most? What are your deepest fears?
So if you want to be ready, start facing them right now. Ask yourself the questions – do things that bother you – interact with people that bother you. Build a thicker skin. Words are words. Actions always mean more and are harder to resist.
You must start today and start small – but start.
The stress of regular life diminishes as you face down your fears.
Be well. Live, laugh, and love.
Bad things happen. Sometimes apologies are made and things are corrected, sometimes not. Sometimes there is no apology. And sometimes those responsible have no idea of their actions.
Whichever the cause, the result is resentment and anger. Do we let it pass? Do we forgive and rise? Do we take it out on another? Do we pass it to our closest friends and relatives? We hate because we are taught to hate. We develop pride and ego who conspire to ‘help’ us.
We want to be rid of the pain. Anger and resentment hurt. There is no quick fix.
So the hate persists, it grows like a cancer, and spreads. Is enlightenment the lack of reaction to anger and hate?
So you hate. I hate. What does it get us? In the end? Naught but pain.
So let it go. Bad things happen but what defines us is how we handle it.
Be well. Live, laugh, and love.
So you fall in love. They are great, you enjoy each other, and you are good friends. You become serious and maybe move in together or become exclusive or make plans to marry.
Then things arise. Could be small, could be large, but like that pebble in your shoe, you can’t ignore it. You do the right thing – you talk to them. You ask for it to change in a way that works for you. You cannot reach them. You keep trying. You fail.
So what do you do? You try very hard to make it work and it does not. Face it. You can’t fix them. If you lack confidence, ask your friends, etc. if your requests are unusual or harsh. Get some backup. Then….do what you must. You must move on.
You will hurt from this deeply as you wished and wanted soo much more. And if its crazy stupid love, well, hold on for turbulence ahead. But keep going. Never stop.
You have value. You are important. You will be an amazing unique partner to some lucky person. You deserve happiness. No one will ever hand this to you. You must be grateful each day. You must be externally focused. Never lose sight of this. You can’t fix them.
Life is strange and wonderful. Even at its worst, there is beauty. Sometimes the hardest things create wonderful outcomes.
So today was hard. Maybe its a demon in your head or heart. Maybe its a failed relationship. Maybe you are too weak to fight an addiction. Maybe your body is ravaged by pain. Will these events define you?
Will you do your best to rise above or will you fall to the lowest common denomiator? Will you stand up for yourself and those you love? Or fall? Choose. And choose wisely not easily. Pay the price. Stand proud.
Today is another chance to choose.
We all have them. The day where the previous night was rough and the following day is simply a continuation. Personal, professional, physical and spiritual its all horrid. You cannot focus and you wonder why you got out of bed.
But you did. And you are out there trying to do your best. You are trying to be kind despite what the world passes to you.
Some call it grace, some courage, some poise or presence. But it exists to some extent in all of us.
Realize what you had the courage to do today. Give yourself credit for what you have done. Get stronger today. Be kind today. If tomorrow never arrives, today will have been a good day.
Sometimes it hurts right away, sometimes it takes time, but we know its coming. Maybe its just an ache. Maybe it truly hurts. And the duration is variable.
So the pain has arrived. It could be mental, physical, or spiritual. What do we do?
We greet it like an old friend. We live the pain when it feels like its all we have. We wonder how it came to be – not what caused it – but how pain first started. Pain is a way of telling you that if you continue doing what you are doing, there will be dire consequences. So thank you pain.
Eventually the pain subsides – from healing or death – and we are left with soreness. Soreness is a reminder of change happening. (Death is not treated casually here. It is serious but also not to be feared.) so you are sore – now what?
Get through it with every positive tool you have. Friends, family, activity, kindness, and love. Do not deny the soreness its place. You must transition and soreness is how it happens.
Realize where you are, why you are there, and if you like it. If you like it then stay. If you do not like it then change it. Embrace the pain, welcome soreness, and step into the light and love again.
Be well. Live, laugh, and love.
We all make mistakes, some large, some not so large. We can minimize them, downplay them, and deny them. But they are always there. Who we are is defined by how we handle mistakes.
Do we ask for fogiveness? Say we regret the mistake? Say I am sorry? What truly needs to happen is to change place mentally with the person you offended and find out what hurts the most. Then go and address these issues quickly and with sincerity. If they forgive you great but if not then let it and them go.
This is truly about letting it go and forgiving yourself. Its easier to ask forgiveness than to forgive. This is true in our external and internal interactions. The internal is far harder. We relive moments, see the pain we cause and know we must do better. Some among us possess a grace that allows them to realize their humanity and move on. Some of us never see the pain we cause and are oblivious. Some know the pain they cause and enjoy inflicting it. And then some know and see the pain they cause and want to make it better. It is to the latter group that this message falls.
First, realize your shortcomings. Certain people,places, and things create negative situations for us. Avoid them all. Do whatever it takes. Cause no harm but make the change to avoid having to bear the scars later. Second, the mistake happens and you make it right with the other person. Third, allow yourself the anger, the shame, the disappointment. Then work on getting better. Be especially nice to strangers and nicer to your friends. Go out of your way for others. Then go and he nice to yourself. You allow yourself forgiveness when you believe you deserve it. And not before.
That is all you can do. Give yourself time to fix it. Life takes time.