So you get hurt. Could be a friend. Could be a partner or a coworker. Work through it with as much dignity as you can. Don’t create things that compound the pain. Don’t be mean. Don’t gossip. Keep confidences.
But you don’t stop caring. Sometimes seeing them just hurts. Hurts down deep.
So let it wash over you. Let the pain cleanse you. Don’t make a bad situation worse by making conflicting decisions because of pain.
It doesn’t mean you stop loving them. And you should keep loving. Loving is like anything else. You have to practice it.
So you miss them and still love them. Be proud you can love no matter the circumstance. And hold your head high.
Be well. Live, laugh, and love.
So sometimes you may be in the situation where you need to do something you love in a bad situation. Divorces cause this many times. The work you love but the love behind the work is lacking. If you have a passion, doing this work with love behind it is wonderful. It elevates the work. But if its painful, it can diminish the work. Anger is generally not a great work driver nor is sadness.
So your options are to produce something subpar or to do your best. The choice and the work is very hard but the satisfaction knowing you did the right thing is paramount. Do not create regret. Also, the work may not be the best you have but it needs to the best you can do in that situation.
Do not create pain for yourself. Pay the price. Do what is right and help yourself move forward. Do not listen to the negative things people will say. Pursue paths and take actions you can live with.
And love yourself a little more when all is done. You did something nice for someone who may not deserve it in your mind but if it helps heal a hurt why not?
Be kind. Live, laugh, love.
Bad things happen. Sometimes apologies are made and things are corrected, sometimes not. Sometimes there is no apology. And sometimes those responsible have no idea of their actions.
Whichever the cause, the result is resentment and anger. Do we let it pass? Do we forgive and rise? Do we take it out on another? Do we pass it to our closest friends and relatives? We hate because we are taught to hate. We develop pride and ego who conspire to ‘help’ us.
We want to be rid of the pain. Anger and resentment hurt. There is no quick fix.
So the hate persists, it grows like a cancer, and spreads. Is enlightenment the lack of reaction to anger and hate?
So you hate. I hate. What does it get us? In the end? Naught but pain.
So let it go. Bad things happen but what defines us is how we handle it.
Be well. Live, laugh, and love.
So you fall in love. They are great, you enjoy each other, and you are good friends. You become serious and maybe move in together or become exclusive or make plans to marry.
Then things arise. Could be small, could be large, but like that pebble in your shoe, you can’t ignore it. You do the right thing – you talk to them. You ask for it to change in a way that works for you. You cannot reach them. You keep trying. You fail.
So what do you do? You try very hard to make it work and it does not. Face it. You can’t fix them. If you lack confidence, ask your friends, etc. if your requests are unusual or harsh. Get some backup. Then….do what you must. You must move on.
You will hurt from this deeply as you wished and wanted soo much more. And if its crazy stupid love, well, hold on for turbulence ahead. But keep going. Never stop.
You have value. You are important. You will be an amazing unique partner to some lucky person. You deserve happiness. No one will ever hand this to you. You must be grateful each day. You must be externally focused. Never lose sight of this. You can’t fix them.
Life is strange and wonderful. Even at its worst, there is beauty. Sometimes the hardest things create wonderful outcomes.
So today was hard. Maybe its a demon in your head or heart. Maybe its a failed relationship. Maybe you are too weak to fight an addiction. Maybe your body is ravaged by pain. Will these events define you?
Will you do your best to rise above or will you fall to the lowest common denomiator? Will you stand up for yourself and those you love? Or fall? Choose. And choose wisely not easily. Pay the price. Stand proud.
Today is another chance to choose.
New Year. New hope. New promises to keep. So we think of things we want to do. We hope and we dream.
But what do we do about it? Not tomorrow, or next week. Today. Now.
Keep your promises to yourself first and then keep promises to others. Set a plan. Get up early and work late. Don’t ever stop.
Will this be easy? Hell no but its the best you got. Work as hard today as you can and hope for another day.
All we really have is now. Use it. Change your life and help others. Dont back off or back down. Fight for what you want because no one else will.
Be well. Work hard. Be kind. Never stop.