We all experience pain of several types and there have been many explanations for the experience. If you enjoy pain, are you a sadist or simply someone who accepts change as the only real constant in our lives?
Nothing in this world is constant (there are mathematical and science related constants that we will excuse from this discussion), so why do we fight it so much? In our lives, many of us play from behind in that we constantly prepare for the tomorrow we expect and adapt to the tomorrow we receive. We need to receive the day, adapt, and accept. On most days, we can do this but what about on the bad days – when it hurts the most?
Do we retreat from our best, and become less in the face of the adversity? Or do we step up and become more? We need to become more. Our world deserves better than what we give it daily.
How do we do this? Here is a list that may help.
- Slow down – consider both your words and your actions. What will be the logical outcome of the words and actions? If it is positive, proceed, but if it is negative, take a new course.
- Change how you think – instead of disliking someone for something said or done, ask why are they acting this way? Can you get a better idea of why they are acting this way, or think of a scenario that would make this their course of action? This is very hard at first, but after awhile it becomes second nature. Combined with slowing down, it will give you surprising results
- Stop expecting anyone to change – accept who they are, warts and all. Use this as a foundation upon which your interactions will build. This does not mean you need to build relationships with negative people, but simply that you understand where they are and can move forward. Your actions are all you can control and they speak volumes about you, not about them. You can love deeply flawed people. That is a good thing, because we are all deeply flawed.
That is it. Take your time, think about it, change how you interact, accept what you receive and move onward and upward to a better place for everyone.