Why is sex taboo? Why do we speak of it in hushed tones, embarrassed to express our desires and needs? We are forced to believe this is dirty, unnatural, an animal only desire that should be contained and controlled.
Bound, gagged, caged, diminished, beaten down, and broken is our sexual ego. Many of us have been exposed to sex as a weapon, a means of control, another way to be associated with the weakest parts of ourselves. We end up being so repressed we either accept the least common denominator – someone else controls our sexual ego – or we make errors and hurt those around us.
Sex is powerful and is not meant to be treated lightly. In choosing a partner – how is sex treated? Like a gift? A prize to be won? This needs to change. While sexual compatibility is important and must be measured, the connection of souls is more important. Sometimes this connection occurs through sex, sometimes it does not. But does the sex feel right? It is giving of yourself at a very deep physical level and shows both desire but also a level of trust and confidence.
Sex is part of who we are as humans at a very deep level and trying to repress it is based in belief that humans have ‘risen above’. Humans have not risen despite our impressive cities, technologies, and weapons. We are desperately alone and weak. We hide behind our possessions, our egos, our sexual blustering – both a victim and a perpetrator of sexual control hides – and we pray to whatever god we choose that no one can see.
You have been granted great gifts and an amazing planet to inhabit. Show it. Not just in how you treat strangers, or your partner, but how you treat yourself. Do not be diminished by those who will control you in mind, body or spirit and sex is the intersection of the three for many of us. Think long and hard about where you are sexually and decide. Today is the day for you to reclaim what is yours and be strong for others who need your help.